As February draws to an end, I can’t help but stop and think about Love.  Love is a very tricky thing.  It’s not that easy, or everybody would be living in perfect harmony and those that want it, would find it.  In the Greek there are 3 words for love that we translate to only 1 word in English.  The kind of love usually associated with February is EROS.  This is the kind of “erotic” (don’t you feel weird for saying that word) love that happens in male-female relationships.  It is more than PHILEO love (which is the love you have for friends).

So Men and Woman, Boys and Girls…if EROS (LOVE) is from God, shouldn’t we as Christians be the BEST at showing this kind of LOVE?  The answer is YES, but I’m hear to tell you that if that were true then we probably would see less divorce inside the Church than we do.  Most statistics say that the percentage of divorce inside the Church is not much if any different than outside the church.

So what do we do?  The answer is……LOVE

I know, I know, you don’t want the “PASTOR” answer and those of you that know me well, know that I’m one of the most practical kind of guys out there.  If you can’t translate it to everyday life, then it’s probably not worth talking about.  As a pastor I can say that I REALLY enjoy pre-marital couseling.  Sure that doesn’t do much for those of you who are already married, but hang with me.  If we as men and woman would put in as much time keeping our spouse as we did getting our spouse, MAYBE, we wouldn’t have as many of the problems as we do.  So here’s what I want to do;  I want to take you through a couple of steps that I do in pre-marital couseling.

1.  Make a list of the things that you KNOW your spouse LOVES to do and for you to do. (NO, this doesn’t include making a sammich)  Well maybe it does if your spouses love language is “Acts of service”

-Some of you that are struggling making this list, it’s probably because you  forgotten how to “Woo” him or her.

An amazing resource that I require my premarital couples do is read “together” the book “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.  Everybody has a differnt love languages and if you don’t know your spouses, chances are you in misery.  (Click here to go to the 5 love languages website)

Here is practical analagy:

Charity (my wife) has 2 top love languages.

1.  Quality time

2.  Words of Affirmation

If I don’t know this and fail to spend a lot of one on one time with my wife, she will be miserable.  If I don’t tell her “proud” of her I am and how much that Iappreciate her, she will not feel loved.  Taking the focus off of yourself and putting it onto your spouse is the first step.  Now, think about that.  If you BOTH are living in this state of mind, then BOTH of you will be happy and “IN LOVE”.

The second thing I have my couples do is take this personality test:  Now, hear me straight.  This is NOT what your talents are.  This test shows where your motivations are in life.  As a spouse you had better know what motivates him or her and how you can speak LIFE into their life and not tear them down.  This test takes literally less than 15 min. to complete and very rarely (acutally I can’t think of one time) it has been way off base.  It costs $10 per test, but it will be one of the best $20 you spent as a couple (Along with the love languages book)

Here is a link to the test (Click here)

-Once you get your flag page…Please take time out to go through it personally and with your spouse.  If you need help understanding your flag page…Please let me know and I would love to sit down with both of you and help you understand it.

***Start with those 2 resources and really apply what you learn to your marriage.  This will not be an overnight “fix”.  Marraige is hard and takes a lot of time and work.  But it’s worth it to God, for your wife, and for your kids (if you have them)

Good luck and I will post some more resources below:

-Love and Respect (Click here)

-Marriage on the Rock (Click here)

-The Love Dare (Click here)

If you are in need of Christian Professional Counseling here are some GREAT referral sources:

-Christian Psychotherapy Services (Click here)

-Eden Counseling Center (Click here)

-Regent Psychological Services Center – this is a great referral source if don’t have health insurance or are on a limited budget. (Click here)

Where: Broadcast Church Office (1421 Kempsville Rd, in Chesapeake, VA 23320)

Grades: 5th-12th

Hope you can be there!  Invite your friends

Don’t forget as we will be celebrating our 2 year Anniversary Feb. 12th as we REJOICE at what God has done in the life of Broadcast Church.

Where: TALLWOOD ELEMENTARY SCHOOL @ 10 AM

Why: BIRTHDAY PARTY

Bring your friends to party with us. We are going to celebrate what God has done at Broadcast Church the last 2 years. We will have NO CHILDREN’S ministry as we are giving them the week OFF to celebrate with us. We want your kids in the service with us celebrating with us!

packaged cookies
jerky
trail mix
granola bars
protein bars
powder drink mix to add to bottles
tooth brushes
tooth paste
sunscreen
magazines
razors
deodorant

Help us be a blessing to these men who are serving our country!

Please bring all items to the Church office or to Church or the on Feb. 4th at 10AM

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If you would like to give to CPC please let Broadcast know and we will make sure your gift gets to CPC.

These are Stats right here in Hampton Roads:

Our Tragedy

There is ONE ABORTION FOR EVERY TWO LIVE BIRTHS in
South Hampton Roads.

On average there are over 8,000 abortions performed each year in South Hampton Roads.

Over 1.3 million abortions are performed annually throughout the United States.*

By age 20, 1 in 7 women have had at least one abortion; by age 45, 4 in 10 have done so.**

Visit CPC website for more information (Click Here)

Where: Broadcast Church Office. (1421 Kempsville Rd., Chesapeake, VA)

Week 2 “Re-Wire” from Jess Holmes on Vimeo.

Hope you can join us Dec. 10th

Needs:

1. Tear down team. We will need to be there at 6:30AM to help load the truck and clean up the office.

2. A team to bring breakfast

3. A team to bring Lunch

4. A team to pack goodie bags for the Children

5. People to aid the photographers

6. People to aid the make up artists

If you are interested please contact broadcastchurch@yahoo.com or call 757-903-9068